What's wrong with us?

Whats is wrong with human kind?
We have lost our compassion to love the common man.
With all of our groups, clicks, and posse's we are creating the outsiders.
These outsiders will never know the meaning of friendship or the good times that could be had.
You tag each other in social networking with inside jokes and events you attend.
Did you ever think how hurtful this might be to people who weren't there.
It's like a virtual high school and you are the popular kids taunting the nerds.
The outsiders think, "just another thing I wasn't invited to because no one likes me"
And don't any of the outsiders dare to break into the clicks no mater what they say.
They could say they were the dally-lama and they would still be excluded from said group.
In said friendships, is there a sacred bond that says "we are the end, no more admittance"?
OH and they'll come up with lame excuses not to include them such as "they are annoying or they talk to much."
Poppycock! Apparently, they don't talk enough to get out from the tirade that is your outsider making friendship.
Aren't all people annoying at times.
We're all human aren't we?
Not to these tyrannical people.
People normally don't like change. But change in inevitable.
It may be bad or good but you never know unless you try.
That boy who sits by himself may be the fiercest friend you would ever have if you just talked to him and got off your high horse.
We are all humans and part of humanity no matter how much of an outsider we may be.
It's time to do your part, HUMANITY!

The Male Consumer is a Loser!

Imbibing liquor is men’s main antidote or escape from their inadequacies regarding women. The “male consumer is a loser” (Messener & Miontez de Oca 1).  The different media types are telling the masses this over-abundantly.  One of the ideas the media are subliminally planting in their heads is that they will really never get the girls they see. These “Average Joe[s]” (27) will never be lucky enough to get the girls they oogle in the “Sports illustrated swimsuit issue” or in the Super Bowl commercials (22).  And in turn, media are telling them that the consolation prize is alcohol.   Alcohol is the retreat for many men when it comes to dealing with women.  Having a beer with the guys is the man’s ultimate escape from dealing with his own feelings of insecurity and inadequacy as well. It also allows him “to escape the emotional needs of his partner while retaining regular access to sex” (14).  Ultimately, this makes women become objects instead of equals. The problem with reality is that men often see the women who are the real girlfriends as “bitch [es]” who just want to control men’s lives (24).  This again circles around to alcohol with which men can enjoy momentary power over their girlfriends by drinking in excess and complaining by trash talking their girlfriends, as long as the girlfriends are not within earshot.  This is why many ads for liquor and other alcoholic beverages accompany a beautiful, surgically enhanced woman wearing scandalous clothing, or lack thereof, that their girlfriends would never wear.  Those women create a fantasy that male consumers can have sex and alcohol without the girlfriend.  However, this feeds men's insecurities because they know that this is a fantasy that will never come true.   And this is a sad way of thinking that perpetuates the truth that the “male consumer is a loser” and always will be (1).

Ads protect us from ourselves?

Often advertisements sell us on the idea that we need their product to undo what we have done.  In order to bend to the media’s view of how women should be, we abuse our bodies and in this specific case our hair.  We spend hours crimping, straightening, and dying our hair to appease what the media has convinced us is beautiful.  And then they turn around and sell us something to undo what we have done.  It is a vicious cycle that perpetuates itself.  This intern makes women feel inadequate in a lot of ways.  When we need products to fix ourselves, this reinforces the concept that we are insufficient to begin with.

The target audience for these ads is often women who are discontented with themselves initially. “It might be those women and girls most invested in or dissatisfied with their appearance who seek out particular media content, and so might buy and read more fashion magazines” (Tiggemann and Mcgill 24).  These media outlets portray women with no visible flaws including perfect hair.  This depicts the notion that in order to be that beautiful, we have to do exactly what they are doing and use the product they are representing.  The supposed end result makes us think that we will be transformed in to the pretty women we saw in the advertisement.

This thinking also perpetuates the idea they we can abuse ourselves in pursuit of this beauty.  In one commercial by Dove, the add states that you can keep abusing your hair because Dove will take care of the damage you have caused.  This opens a can of worms containing eating disorders and other forms of self punishment.  This idea that we can create messes of ourselves knowing that someone else will clean it up is a dangerous game to play.